Being gentle

Wendy,

I find that there are two kinds of relationships: one and two way.  The one way relationships work when, even with good peole, there is an energy transfer from one person to another.  This can be an abusive wife who nags her husband, draining him of his energy.  Or a friend that unburdens a huge load of mental anguish on another.

Then there is another type of relationship.  The symbiotic one.  Where by giving,  you receive energy back.  A loving father listening to his daughter, returns with advice, and the daughter takes the time to listen to the advice and thanks him for it.  Both feel better, both have received love and compassion.

What do you think?  If a relationship is draining, it may not be because you cannot send compassion to yourself, but that the energy that you give in the relationship is not enhanced or returned.

Take care of yourself!
Anna

     Try this old James Redfield trick.  Find a place of alluring beauty to You.  Sit there and just let Your eyes wander until they naturally stop at someplace attractive.  Just look at it and appreciate it for a bit.  Elevate this appreciation if You can to a level of gratitude for BEing able to witness this.  Again bump it up a notch by elevating the gratitude to a state of Love and adoration.  Breathe the vibrant colors and Light into You.  Your batteries are now charged.  With a little practice You can keep this Energy connection indefinitely.  Should You feel a draw from a vampirous personality, it has no effect on You.  The top of Your head is open and recieving Energy from a true source.  Whatever is taken is drawn back into You in equal proportion.  Only when You connect to another person for Energy do You begin to run into problems of Co-dependency.  Eventually You just tap each other out.  Bummer.

BE,

Erik

P.S. You might think of doing some Shadow work (i.e. scraps of anger and anxiety lurking in the hard to reach spaces that even meditation has trouble getting to.) or define any childhood dramas that You used on others as a child to get energy (i.e. poor me, aloof, intimidation, etc.)  by bringing them out and confronting them so that You don't continue to use them on anybody else as well as Your self.

     Truly sharing is giving of YourSelf. Your true Self.  You are all things.  You have all things.  It is a synonymous state of Being.  Relate from within that realm and You will be fine.  Relating from within the realm of physicality, especially in conflictive or competitive conversation, will leave both Beings feeling wanting and listless.  After that You cannot give what You no longer have.  In the Higher realms, You cannot be tapped out.   Also, speak to the Person's higher self.  Seeing only the Light within Them validates their true Self and in effect inables It by Spiritual Intervention without violating the Laws of Free Will.  In short, positive guided intentional thought = PRAYER!  You have freely given Them energy: now it is up to Them to decide what to do with it, not You.  It's just like tithing in church.  I think that is what that principle is teaching us………

Trust.

BE, 

 

     I should make this even more clear.  If You are feeling drained after being with someone,  You are seeing them as Your source of Energy.  No One person can bare that responsibility.  Lift One Another into the Light.  No more drain.

Help?